Many of us live in “persona world” you know, that wonderful world of face masks – even when Halloween is long gone. In that world are doubts, fears, self hate, past hurts and un-forgiveness lives. Then when we come across people that we are attracted to, we quickly affirm within ourselves to not bother approaching them…in fear that they’d never really be interested. However, this may not be they others see us. It may actually be the reflection that we have come believe of ourselves…all by ourselves! This is case by not liking what we see in the mirror.
How can we truly love another if we don’t love ourselves?

If we truly expect to have loving relationships with others we must have loving relationships with ourselves first. The first thing (which is a must) is to ask yourself some tough questions. Then after that, take a long hard look at yourself and ponder the real answers you’ve come to know:

~ What would you feel about yourself if you believed you were totally accepted for whom you are, with zero masks and love was reciprocated to you?

~ Would this heal relationships? (Past or current)

~ How self confident can you see yourself becoming by leaning to love yourself?

~ Do you believe you can be a wonderful source to share love?

~ When and how will you change the way you treated yourself?

Loving Yourself …

~ Is not arrogant, bumpass or egotism!~ Some may fear that there is a thin line between self-love and conceit.

~ No one can really tolerate a self loving imbasol that over does it with the self love department.

~ We are way to careful, modest and self-effacing at every possible opportunity about ourselves to not come off as the over confident one.

~ We sometime minimize our accomplishments, goals and dreams.

~ We also sometimes believe people should love us for who we are, not for what we have are do.
Egotism is really another sign of self hate. Egotism is actually the very opposite of everything self love stands for.

ego•tism
Pronunciation:
\ˈē-gə-ˌti-zəm also ˈe-\ Function:noun Etymology:Latin ego + English -tism (as in idiotism)
1 a: excessive use of the first person singular personal pronoun b: the practice of talking about oneself too much 2: an exaggerated sense of self-importance: conceit

 

 

Egotistic people view life in this pattern: I am above others. I am the only one that truly cares about me and my well being. There is no real love in the world so I probably will never have the love I deserve anyway. I have a right to feel this way, be judgmental, and impatient. Besides, who needs love when I look this good, have this much money, get sex whenever I want with no strings and have power over what’s mines.

After reading that, do you now see the difference in the importance of self love as it differs from an ego based view point? Egotism is all about I,I,I. Where as self love is the first act of love that reaches out to others.

~ How will you show love to yourself?

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