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The SHERO Within…

Have you ever been forced to reckon with the the hero within the woman. We call this a SHERO. A shero to us are women that have faced horrifying, life threatening and life changing situations, yet soldier on despite of them. One of our most adored S-H-E-M-A Gurls member “Diana” once called US her sheros. This statement has never been taken lightly, because to be a hero of any fashion or form, you would have had to made a difference in the lives of others or your own.

This blog is dedicated to women that have OVERCOME and while overcoming, are still helping others. It is also a tool to teach women how to protect themselves while implementing the confidence and skills to do so.  This blog is also a reminder that sisterhood is key to achieving goals.  With sisterhood we understand that working together not only builds self character, but it also builds a stronger SHERO in YOU.

We have recently had the honor of meeting a woman that has fit this profile to a “T”….

Elsie Allen, the founder of “Sisters SOS” (sisters supernaturally overcoming situations). Her mission is to provide women with information, tools and training essential for a safe and secure life. The vision of Sister’s S.O.S is to prepare women today and future generations of women with a safety plan of action that will help them avoid danger if possible, defend themselves if necessary and most importantly, know how to survive unsafe situations.

Sisters SOS want to always recognize the women who have made a difference in your lives by sharing these stories of encouragement with others.

www.sisterssos.com

Please visit her site and won’t you come join us as we speak with Elsie Allen on Friday July 17th @ 8 p.m. PST 10 p.m CST 11 p.m. EST. This will be our first interview back from break, so we are excited to hit the radio waves once again. She will be specifically speaking on ways women can protect themselves while having information, skill and knowledge to perfect the shero within all of us. 

~ What have you overcome?

~ Who is your Shero?

~ Have you become a shero to someone in your life?

~ How can you help strengthen someone facing a life changing situation?

Caring is sharing and we look forward to hearing from you all,

~ Your SHEMA Team ~

Love Thy Self…

Self Love: how you feel about yourself has a lot to do with how others feel about you. Sometimes how people feel about themselves is obvious in their appearance. We may feel that someone who walks with their head down, or never looks at others eye to eye and perhaps rarely speak in a voice barely loud enough to hear them may show sigs of a not so good opinion of one’s self.

Many of us live in “persona world” you know, that wonderful world of face masks – even when Halloween is long gone. In that world are doubts, fears, self hate, past hurts and un-forgiveness lives. Then when we come across people that we are attracted to, we quickly affirm within ourselves to not bother approaching them…in fear that they’d never really be interested. However, this may not be they others see us. It may actually be the reflection that we have come believe of ourselves…all by ourselves! This is case by not liking what we see in the mirror.
How can we truly love another if we don’t love ourselves?

If we truly expect to have loving relationships with others we must have loving relationships with ourselves first. The first thing (which is a must) is to ask yourself some tough questions. Then after that, take a long hard look at yourself and ponder the real answers you’ve come to know:

~ What would you feel about yourself if you believed you were totally accepted for whom you are, with zero masks and love was reciprocated to you?

~ Would this heal relationships? (Past or current)

~ How self confident can you see yourself becoming by leaning to love yourself?

~ Do you believe you can be a wonderful source to share love?

~ When and how will you change the way you treated yourself?

Loving Yourself …

~ Is not arrogant, bumpass or egotism!~ Some may fear that there is a thin line between self-love and conceit.

~ No one can really tolerate a self loving imbasol that over does it with the self love department.

~ We are way to careful, modest and self-effacing at every possible opportunity about ourselves to not come off as the over confident one.

~ We sometime minimize our accomplishments, goals and dreams.

~ We also sometimes believe people should love us for who we are, not for what we have are do.
Egotism is really another sign of self hate. Egotism is actually the very opposite of everything self love stands for.

ego•tism
Pronunciation:
\ˈē-gə-ˌti-zəm also ˈe-\ Function:noun Etymology:Latin ego + English -tism (as in idiotism)
1 a: excessive use of the first person singular personal pronoun b: the practice of talking about oneself too much 2: an exaggerated sense of self-importance: conceit

 

 

Egotistic people view life in this pattern: I am above others. I am the only one that truly cares about me and my well being. There is no real love in the world so I probably will never have the love I deserve anyway. I have a right to feel this way, be judgmental, and impatient. Besides, who needs love when I look this good, have this much money, get sex whenever I want with no strings and have power over what’s mines.

After reading that, do you now see the difference in the importance of self love as it differs from an ego based view point? Egotism is all about I,I,I. Where as self love is the first act of love that reaches out to others.

~ How will you show love to yourself?

In closing:

Share you thoughts and comments with us here. This will be the next topic on The S-H-E-M-A Gurls Blog Talk Radio Show. We’d love to share you views with others live!

~ Your S-H-E-M-A Team ~