Comments on: Love Thy Self…

By: Katrina

Katrina — Fri, 20 Mar 2009 23:26:42 +0000

I believe some of the reasons why people do not love themselves is because they’ve never been shown love or how to love so it’s very difficult to now be in society and trying to get along when you really have no clue how to go about it, and some of the times it’s not that that person is not a good person it’s just that they are not accustomed.

Sometimes you can love yourself very much but then someone will come along and you think that person is really good for you and slowly they start trying to tear you down because they don’t feel all that good about themselves and sometimes it affects even the strongest of people because LOVE is a really tricky emotion.

By: Clarence N

Clarence N — Thu, 19 Mar 2009 22:00:00 +0000

Good topic. I believe that the questions you posed are at the essence of what is both right and wrong in many people’s lives, including my own. Personally, I’ve been working on shaking past generational curses that have afflicted or held back myself for the past few years. What started as a slow, tough journey is actually turning out to quite successful and humorous.

If you recall the movie, The Matrix, Neo was offered to take either the blue or red pill. After he took the red pill, he was riding around in the car with Morpheus and made comments about where he used to hangout and wondered if any of was real. Morpheus replied, it was never real. I recall this comment every time I am afraid of something. I ask myself is the fear real or imagined. I can honestly tell you that most fear is imagined. Unless it’s a near dog attack, mugging, someone with a gun in your face, most of our fears are self-imposed.

And this is at the crux of loving yourself. If you love yourself (not in some narcisstic way where you think you’re the shit 24/7), you don’t have to worry about the perceptions of other people. If the truth be told, all of us are in this same condition. So it’s funny that we all some form of a self-defeating attitude and for this reason, nothing gets down.

I was listening to the radio while driving home from Palo Alto one evening and this guy named Nathan was complaining about the AIG bonuses and how as a taxpayer he was furious. If that was all that was bothering Nathan, no problem. We all have our opinions. But Nathan continued to say that we wish he could SWAP his paycheck for one of the AIG bonus recipients. So what started as anger about someone receiving ill-gotten gains was actually a case of envy. The talk show host offered to give Nathan some advice about earning more than he currently making. But Nathan did not even let the radio host speak and hung up on him.

What a tragedy! If people’s fears about issues or stereotypes about others are SO GREAT, SO GREAT that we refuse to hear advice, we are SCREWED as a nation.

It hurt my soul to hear someone let their fear of someone else thousands of miles away, affect their attitude. It was sad.

That’s my two cents.

By: Tracy Renee

Tracy Renee — Thu, 19 Mar 2009 18:53:30 +0000

I am on a journal to love myself more. It’s not easy making life changes that bring peace, productivity and harmony to one’s life. Sometimes friends and situations have run their coarse and should be put aside. I love myself by treating myself the way I would treat other people. How did I get to be so inconsiderate and critical of me? Loving me also means accepting my limitations but also believing that I deserve to give me the best that life has to offer be it a pleasant, peaceful living enviroment, quiet time to reflect and meditate, visits to the doctor when needed, rest when my body is tired or stimulation for my mind through reading and communicating with positive people.

By: Frederick Penn

Frederick Penn — Thu, 19 Mar 2009 18:05:51 +0000

I enjoyed reading the “Love Thy Self” posting.

I have a question for you?

Are you ready to have a man on your show that has the courage and the experience to tell the truth about men and women?

If so, please contact the Godfather of Self Esteem, Frederick Penn

Thank you

By: David C

David C — Wed, 18 Mar 2009 11:48:09 +0000

I have always loved myself. I did have some issues when I felt I was the shortest boy in my class in high school. I guess I had a late growth spurt. I take care of myself but not to the fullest. I could stand to lose about 15 lbs. I am currently at 208 but I am down from the 235 I was a few years ago. I have always wanted to be loved for who I am and I have a spouse that does that for me. I am not the extrovert life of the party person but I am more reserved and calm. I tend not to get overly excited and for some that’s seen as not being pro-active. I get that but I am not going to change who I am because someone else thinks I need to be a certain way.